He is trying to sidestep the porn issue by restoring the state of the R to where it was before I found out about the lie. If he can do that and I go along with it, then all is forgiven.
So bring it up and talk to him about it again Heather. Tell him that this is what you feel is happening and that if it is...that all is not ok with the porn issue. Or have you already told him that you think this is what he's doing?
It's unfortunate but you two have some major issues going on and they aren't going to be resolved easily. I wish they could be, but they won't. I think I may have said this before but have you said to him "your continuing to view porn after telling me you've stopped only reinforces for me that YOU aren't committing to this relationship. Why is it ok for you to expect me to commit fully when you aren't willing to?"
