I was just talking with a co-worker who knows about my sitch and mentioned to him that my W is shampooing the carpets in our house. He thinks this is her subconsiously taking control of something and trying to cleanup apart of her life. She maybe out of control or messy in other areas of her life but this is something that she can control. I do know she is not doing this to get our house ready to sell, she knows that I am keeping it. Another thing that she is now doing is checking in with me to see if spending any money from our joint account is ok. Who knows if this means anything but it is a change in her behaviour.
