Hi, IMP, this is an interesting discussion, I think you always raise interesting points, you offer a unique vantage point, and most of all, I think you set a wonderful example to the guys on how to have a relationship with your ex from which everyone, especially your children, benefit.
I'm like you in some ways. I don't sugar coat things.
I think there are some people who are grasping at straws, unable to take a hard and unbiased look at their marriage, their spouse and themselves. It is easier to call on some "syndrome" for the explanation for it all, and then create a timetable and "steps" for the magical resolution of it. And there, sadly, some remain stuck.
I can read threads here and see nothing but bad behavior and dysfunctional people, on both sides, and yet the significant postings all have to do with stages or steps or signs or symptoms...yeesh!
But everyone has to choose their own path right??
That's ultimately the message that one would hope people ultimately see.
It's all about choices.
We can choose to stand, choose to move on, choose to stay, choose to go, choose to love, choose to live...
We all find ourselves here for a reason and we can view it as a loss or an opportunity.
