I'm sorry to say, it seems to me like neither of you are going to budge on what each thinks they're entitled to do or to expect from their partner, and those beliefs will be forever incompatible unless they are changed on one side or the other.
This is the exact meaning of the term "irreconcilable differences".
But you've agreed to a year. You can use that year to see if either of you can let go of their beliefs as to what they may do or what they may expect or both. I'm thinking not, but maybe the horse will learn to sing after all.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.