I do not consider your questions rude. And I don't want to co-opt hope's thread. So I will answer here and anyone who wants to blast me, have at it.
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but...why do you post on this board if you don't beleive in MLC? Why do you come here?
Please show me where I said I do not believe in MLC. I have said it exists and have used an uncle as an example of someone in MLC who did not leave his family as an example of someone I knew in MLC. And I come here because someone one day asked me to come here because he saw someone who could benefit from my knowledge. I have been in and out ever since. Also, I have seen enough people here who blame MLC for their troubles and fail to see their own part in those troubles. It is sad when yu see people who are 6, 7, 8 years removed from a marriage and still complaining about their former spouses' MLCs.
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Those of us who may question MLC have never done so in a way that strips other people of their right to feel.
Please expound on that.
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It seems like anyone who holds a different view than you is taunted or made out to be some sort of idiot.
Again, please expound on that. If you are going to say that I point out when people make up BS, then I am guilty.
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If you really feel you were victimized by your wife's MLC
When did I ever say I felt victimized by my wife's MLC? I never said that. I never will. I do not feel that way. Who told you I felt that way? I certainly never did.
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perhaps you haven't moved on as much as you would like us to believe.
Pure speculation. Ask the people who know me.
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Everyone's situation is different and you taking away a coping mechanism does nothing.
There is a big difference between a coping mechanism and a crutch. Please note the people who have come to this board and have said that when they stopped worrying about their spouse's MLC and starting living, their spouses returned. While there are sadly too few success stories on the board, that seems to be a common thread. Not everyone who comes here and says their spouse is going theough MLC has a souse going through MLC. And some spouses who have MLC were most certainly helped along in their journey by the same person who feel victimized. What about the man who works 70 hours a week and is unappreciated by his family? What about the woman whose husband has a history of poor behavior, some I know have spouses who cheated before marriage yet blame MLC?
fig, I remember this guy who was a heroin addict. He used to go to NA meeting. He told me he stopped using when he stopped going to meeting. Wierd, but true. People can believe what they want and feel what they want. But my posts are not meant for those who do not want to be victims. I will accept one of their "thank you" for a million posts questioning my motives.
And Lissette, who told you I was bitter? Hint. I know the answer.
