In her defense, this is highly unusual behavior for her these days... I think the physical discomfort associated with the home maintenance issue was getting to her. That and me being worried about the cost and disappointed in having to call set her off.

Hmmm... could be what it really boils down to is that her sensitivity to me is a lot higher than mine is to her, and me worrying or being disappointed silently is just as dramatic and hurtful to her as her pitching a royal fit is to me.

Anyway, once she recovered, I just let it go. I guess I still let her off too easy, but I really didn't know what more I could have done afterwards that would have done any good. Maybe not getting rewarded by any kind of reaction (arguing, retaliating, or apologizing) is enough. On the other hand, I did do what she said, so maybe I did reward her on some level. On the gripping hand, I made it as clear as I could that I was doing it because I had already decided to, not because she ordered me to, and that talking to me that way only delayed the cooperation I was only seconds away from offering of my own free will.

I don't think threatening to spank her while she was in that mood would have done any good at all. Maybe afterward?

Last edited by Crazy Eddie; 05/30/07 04:11 PM.
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