If you feel like "playing", here's a little "excersize" that might help.
Make yourself a list of all the needs you have that you feel are important for YOU to have a good relationship. Make it a long list, and try not to leave anything out. Even, and especially, those needs that you feel are already being met.
Once you've made that list, rank them in order, starting from the MOST important, down to the LEAST important.
Once you have that done, it's time to do a little "horse tradin'"!
Which one, or ones, of your most important needs are you willing to "trade" for getting 2 or 3 of your least important ones met? From these least important needs that aren't being met, which ones do you think might be the easiest to get fulfilled?
Conversely, what is your ONE most important need that you would like to have met, maybe even NEED to have met, that you might be willing to give up a few of the smaller needs for?
Once you have some of these answers, it might be easier to see just exactly where you might want to place some emphasis on setting up some goals for yourself, and your relationship.
JJ
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