You don't have to "accept" your life as it is. BUT, that doesn't mean you need to throw your M into the dumpster. You have the opportunity to give your H an important gift. Let him know (gently) your needs are not being met. My X didn't tell me until after she had decided the M was over (OK...maybe she tried...but in a harsh, confrontational way). If he continues not to hear, be very frank and tell him you can't go on this way. Perhaps you've done all that. But the fact you want him is a good indicator you can work this out together.
One more thing to think about....perhaps he cares more than he lets on. Perhaps he doesn't know how to express love the way you need him to. Take him by the hand and guide him. Don't assume he "gets it" or presume he should.
