I’m pretty much done with the board, but I wanted to make a suggestion for you… After all you’ve been through here and all the work you’ve done on yourself, I wonder if there is anything more a counselor could tell you. Sure, there could be some insights on the interaction between you and your H that we cannot see here, but I would think most of the hard self-confrontation is past you.
So maybe one way to get your H to go is to ask him along to give his input on you, that the joint sessions are meant only for your growth. I think the counselor will quickly run out of topics to discuss and start to put the focus on your H. But as long as you keep up the idea that any discussion with him is just to help focus on you, you may be able to skirt around his ego and let him see how some of your personal growth could benefit him. Anything you want to say to him, say it to yourself. Remember, he is narcissistic. BTW, have you read up any on narcissism? If not, you should seriously look into it.
