jethro, I have recently told h I would like for ow to no longer be a customer just a recently as while we were away on our little ski trip.
a game plan??? dunno anymore other than to work on me...be the best me I can be...do what I want to do whether it pleases h or not (like painting an decorating the dining room who gives a hoot if he don't like it) I will fill my life with whatever I want to do...h will not mind and h will not change.
as recently as two nights ago I let h know this is not working...and h just wants to go with the flow...take it one day at a time...it's not working..I know it's not working h should know it's not working but perhaps h has resigned himself to just be content (after all when he came home he was stupid enough to say that he has to put his needs aside) to live in a nice house with his kids with a woman who will cook and clean and looks good and only wants to look better, who doesn't give him crap for watching football or going to games or doing what he wants to do.
the plan???? hang in there as long as I can and when I am in a more stable place and the kids are in school and have other things asside frome me..beat it...unless of course h changes.