Quoting lostlove: ...so suppose I should just shut up and accept my life.
(((((LL))))) I'm going to lay myself on the line here ... IMHO, this is against what you are fighting for. The single and foremost important aspect to DBing is to be true to yourself and do what will make you happy in life. Settling for a "loveless" R will not succeed in making you happy and having a successful M. With that said, you and your H will have to search deep down in your souls to answer is this really a "loveless" R and is there no potential for it to change? Right now, I feel you or your H can't answer that with any degree of certainly right now although I believe you are trying to convince yourself that and that it will still be OK with that outcome. It will not! ... and you don't deserve that! You will come to feel defeated in life. Even the children don't deserve to grow up in that climate.
LL, at this juncture it may be best to consider a phone consultation with the "professionals" here to help you find the answers so you can find direction for your life again and give your H a chance to answer that question for himself and for your sake as well.
