Good post. All this sucks but we are getting through it.
Do spend some time alone to get back in touch with you. You know, we acted a certain way when we were "happily" M and we contributed to our problems like it or not. Then we DB and we became aware of our behaviors and worked hard to make changes. But that is like learning to drive a car - we can drive but we are still on edge.
So now is the time to find the real us - to *center up* so to speak. I am discovering that person in me and I see you are too. I am finding more changes I want to make but know what, I like the person I see.
On the other hand when the dating thing comes up please don't keep putting it off (I need not explain why, right?). And ease into it - there is no reason to get close too quickly. Next time we will KNOW what to look for and WE get to choose!
