ll, you don't have to accept anything less than what you deserve. i think your plan of concentrating on you, gym, school, friends, etc, this is all good. you need a break from working on the marriage. make yourself as happy as you can. maybe someday you will feel strong enough to leave and find something else. or maybe your h will allow himself to fall back in love with you and fight like hell for your marriage. in the meantime do what you need to do to be ok. lisa
