Again, I completely get what you're saying. I call it "braced". I've been "braced" forever for him to leave, so it wouldn't be so painful this time. Ha!! I mean it's not, but still, living "braced" was NOT living!!
One of the things DH promised me when he left was that he'd wear his wedding ring. He takes it off a lot for things like yard work and playing on the lake. He hasn't worn it in over a week when he cut up and blistered his hands removing a holly bush. I figured he'd for sure have it on last night cuz he thought he left it at work over the long weekend. Nope. He might have lost it. I started to say something and he said "I know, I promised" and again used the excuse about his hands. Whatever.
We were invited to a graduation party this weekend in Atlanta. The past couple of trips, we have spent the night in a hotel since it's such a long drive. We'll see. We haven't talked about it and his cousin called last night about it, so we'll see.
Okay, I'm off to the Y. It helps for that hour and a half... LOL!!
