Some good books to help out: "Getting Back Together," and a marvelous one for understanding affairs and working through them is "Not 'Just Friends," by Shirley Glass.
One thing I've decided to insist on is once a month MC. Not to deal with the A, but mostly to help facilitate communication and help insure that my H and I are communicating regularly. I figure one hour 12 X a year, every year for the rest of our marriage is a very reasonable commitment. This way we can make sure that at least some things are being addressed in a "safe" environment with a neutral third party. And as far as money goes it's definitely MUCH cheaper than divorce!
Good luck to you and congratulations!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
