Well, it certainly sounds like you are doing better. I'm glad.

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thing is that h used to (and I mean a long long time ago) treat me like a queen, I was someone special (hell he even gave me a heart shaped charm that said so) and though it may seem that h is a nimrod, he is not, he is becomming an excellent daddy someone who realizes that spending time with the kids is just as (if not more) important as working to provide all the "stuff" for them.
Jeez...you were in WAW mode the last couple of days...forgetting some of the good things in the past? Know what I'm saying? If your H once treated you like a queen, then hopefully, over time, he will do the same again. Him spending more time with the kids also demonstrates how he's coming around. It may be slow, but he's doing it... Let's hope that soon those "coming home" efforts will gravitate toward you a little more. I think doing your own thing will help start this process. I think we all tend to "project" our feelings onto our Ses even though we don't "say" anything about them. The projection comes across through words, actions, body language, etc. Our Ses know us so well that they immediately pick up on it... You concentrating on other things will take your attention away from your R so much and it will boost your PMA. This PMA will end up shining through the interactions you have with your H. Reminds me of the song, "Shiney Happy People (or LL)" by REM.

Home Depot has to be my favorite store...although they have a limited tool selection! I could spend hours in there...drives my W nuts! Good for you for going to the "jim."

jethro