Quote: I know it seems he doesn't do enough now, but if you consistantly let him know when he gets it right, then he can believe what he does can make you happy and it will encourage him to try it some more
I thank him all the time, I point out good things when they happen, doesn't seem to keep them comming. oh well.
Quote: Your H was the one that asked YOU about why YOU were so upset last night. Should this not be recognized?
well actually at the end of the day he said " can I ask you something" "what the hell were you so pissed about last night?"
ya, ok I suppose he should get some credit for speaking up! but did I not say to him exactly how I felt THEN? and really is that any way to approach a subject??? gee maybe I should talk to him that way. "why the hell did you have an a?" "why the hell do you watch football so damn much?" "why the hell aren't you home" "what the hell do you do all day?" "why the hell don't you want to hug me?" "why the hell don't you want to spend time with me?" "why the hell don't you want to talk to me" "why the hell are you even here????"
h does not get it, I do not get it.
I am in a no win sit. h is in a no win sit.
we can somehow learn to peacfully co-exist, but as far as a loving r... doesn't seem likely.
oh well.