I'm sorry, LL. Sounds like we both had big R talks yesterday. I feel much of the same way you do about my R with my W...and how I felt many years ago, when we M, etc. I have always been the one to show more love and be more attentive to her needs than she to me. Is this a byproduct of them not feeling the same way about us, or is it that they simply show they care differently? I don't know, but I've thought many times about it.
You know, I did notice one other thing in your post: Your H was the one that asked YOU about why YOU were so upset last night. Should this not be recognized? For one so uncommunicative, it sounds like he tried...
