Thanks SD... I do need a good swift whack upside my head from time to time. I have to take her totally out of the equation and think only about what is best for me and my DD's.
When it comes to confiding in friends I have only a few guys that I have told everything to. Everyone else I think knows a little about what is going on and they try to get me to say more. I just tell them that we are having problems and that it does not look good for us. I have stayed away from common friends....ok I have stayed away from the friends that she is talking to. I really do not want to make a bad name for the mother of my children, but, I will defend myself from accusations.
Ok I am going to vent a little.... My W except for her family has surrounded herself with people that have their own problems. Her one good friend just this fall was having an A, her second, and my W talks to her multiple times a day. I do not know what is said except the little that my W has shared with me. As you might imagine it does not appear to me like she is giving stay in your M advice. She is also not coming down on my W like my W did to her in the fall. Yes, that is right. My W came down hard on this friend this past October because she was having an A. Her other girl friend that she talks to on a daily basis is in the same sitch as me. Her H is walking out on her for another woman. So my W is her support and it makes my W feel good that she can be there for her. I doubt that her friend knows everything about what my W is doing. She was also in MOPs this past year and there were atleast three other M in the group were one of the S's wanted to walkout in their M. This is my W support group, her counselor who from what my W is telling me is supporting her in leaving me, friends with messed up M's and her family. I think her family is the group that has really tried to get her to stay and work on our M. Now I think that they are just afraid of my W and are just trying to be supportive of her no matter what. I have been painted as the big bad wolf in their eyes. Which is total crap. This past Christmas she was telling me and her family how happy she was and could not wait for the next ten years. How quickly things change.
And while I am at it, another thing that gets me worked up is the fact that she is using her faith to justify her actions. No where in the bible does it say that it is ok to commit adultery or break up your family because you feel like it. From what I have read Christ saves, and restores.
Ok I am done now. Thanks again for the hit upside the head.
