Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

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My W rang today, to ask whether I could give her money to buy a dress for a work function that she had put on layby.

She asked me this around 4 weeks ago and I agreed, that was before her admitting R with OM 3 days ago.

I remember she had put money on the lay-by dress a while ago, around $50-80. The dress is only $200. Today when she asked me, she stated that she needed $200????

I need advice, should I just give her the $200 and leave it, or should I ask for the receipt balance of the lay-by???

Mind U, she has been nicer to me for the last 3 days. DBing would suggest to ignore this R with OM (not 100% sure myself of extent of R) and just keep being considerate. She did succumb to my pressure of an admittance of a R with OM, so that I could move on. She pretty much told me if that was what I wanted to hear for me to move on, then yes, she was having a relationship.

So any advice? I feel that I should just give her the amount. Let her live with the guilt of lying to me again.