My Marriage feels helpless III

[SuperDad]

ERC,
Glad you had a nice evening with your DDs. However, you need a bit of a 2x4 here. So here it comes!

Your W needs to get the message, loud and clear, that you are doing what you need to do to make you and your DDs happy and secure. What she wants is of very little, if any concern to you! This business of her insisting that you do not tell people about the sitch is nonsense.

I have told many of my friends about the sitch. My W told some common friends and they all think she is nuts and regularly tell me so. Even two of HER friends approached me last weekend and told me that she is off the deep end (and I am sure that they don't know the real story!). THIS is why your W doesn't want you to tell people!

Just one word of caution, telling common friends will complicate things, so think hard before you talk to them. Also, don't confide in common friends as they then get put in between the two of you and this is no good for you, them, nor your sitch. Choose close male friends who can understand and encourage you in your sitch.

OK, 2x4 done. Hope you can get something from it!

Be strong for you and your DDs. W will do what she needs to do and anyway she will never respect you if you cannot stand up to her!

(((ERC)))

SD