I would be angry too, but I have to tell you I am concerned by what is going on here. I am concerned by the names you are calling her. I am concerned by the fact that you perpetuated her bad behavior. I am concerned by what the children are absorbing and are exposed to.
Santhony. YOu are angry. There are lots of very real reasons for being angry and no one blames you--some are big reasons, some small. But there is nothing, especially not a $100 grill that is worth making the relationship with the mother of your children so contentious.
Yes, she started all of this. Yes, she has exacerbated this and acted like an ass. Yes, it is hard to be the bigger person in light of the frustration this must cause, but it is a gift you need to give your kids. It will take sacrifice and strength but you will be glad you did it.
I beg of you, do not take her bait. Teach the children by example. At the very least they will be able to look back and say "my mom was a loon but no matter what my dad conducted himself with kindness and dignity."
The stuff is nothing--the real valuables are those children of yours. She is their mom and they NEED to love her and need to know she loves them in order to grow up without feeling screwed over and screwed up.
Why not diffuse the situation by offering her iced tea or doing something kind. She would probably soften right off the bat. Calling her names, locking her out, going to the cops--it is all so provocative and can not possibly lead to anything good or productive, especially for your precious babies. YOu are goving her all the reasons in the world to keep her hackles up and in fighting mode. Take those reasons away and she will relax.
I'm sorry this is happening, she has done some shitty things without a doubt, and of course the neighbors are on your side. Be confident in your own actions and motivations.
