Nix the chore list. You are not two kids at summer camp.
She sounds a bit confused about what she wants, and not just cleaning house. You do one thing and she wanted you to do something else, or both, but the other first. So try just looking at the pile of things to be done and ask her what would she like you to do - not a list - just one chore. Then do it. Then repeat.
Women with little children get overwhelmed, and a lot of the feelings they have - physical problems, pain, hormone swings, post-partum depression - go away, but the mindset that ended their sex drive remains, and they don't realize it. You do something nice, and by the time it gets to their brain, it passed through all these residual filters and labeling processes that misinterpret it and store it away as something negative.
If you are going to make a list, make a list of 20 things you like for her to do for you, and have her make a list of 20 things she likes for you to do that demonstrate your affection for her. Concentrate on doing those.
