Did I say "I'm ready"? Ready for what? My H has mentioned wanting to try IVF several (make that many) times over the past few months.
OK, let's recap: He took off without notice over a year ago. He's living on a boat on the east coast and plans on going back to school (in the east) for a career change. I live in an apt in STL, while taking care of 2 properties in CO (the 2nd of which was his idea). I take care of the dog and 2 cats (2/3 of which were his idea). He takes care of the boat, which was his idea.
So now he wants to start a family under these conditions????? I am totaly and completely perplexed.
He didn't want to do IVF when we both lived in the same house, said it was a last resort. So I guess we are @ the last resort now.
He did mention making arrangements to live together should the IVF work (that is sooo kind of him - to want to live with his wife and children!!). Of course, it is not wise to want kids to "save" the marriage. But that appears to be what he is telling me (I think). He keeps saying he would not have left if there was a "family" involved. But, I reminded him that I **am** his family.
Perhaps I started this whole thing. I did mention to him that when the house sells, I planned to use the proceeds to do IVF on my own if he were still floating around aimlessly on the boat. And I would do that. But with him back in the picture now does add a new wrinkle.
Deb
Joy and Sorrow...when one sits alone with you at your board, remember the other is asleep upon your bed. ~Kahlil Gibran
Me: 46 H: 45 Married: 5.0+ years Bomb: May 17, 2006 0 living children, 2 babies in heaven 1 dog, 2 cats
