Ahh hun, you sound so tired. Sounds like you need to maybe forget about H for a bit. Do as you yourself suggested and go out and about and do your stuff. Forget the a$$ and go do something for you.
Seems there is some kind of PMA flu going around, maybe because of the holidays. Maybe it's time that all of us DB'ers get out and about and do something solely for ourselves, not for our alien Ses.
Maybe it's time for you to distance from your H a little more and not take his stupidity personally. His sleeping in S bed could mean anything or nothing. Remember that we often interpret actions the wrong way. We are not telepaths, nor are we some all seeing oracle. We make mistakes when we try to assign meaning to another's actions, more often than we are correct we are incorrect.
But don't ponder these things, just get out and about and do something fun. Hey, you now qualify as a cougar, go chase some young boys at the mall or something
Peace Out
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KAW and Utterly've got the right idea. See if H stays so indifferent once you're not just sitting home all the time, holding everything together. At the very least, now you'll be getting some more detachment from what (for now, anyways) is an unfulfilling relationship.
You had been planning on taking on some new activities for some time now. Too bad it doesn't just happen overnight. Perhaps things will go better now that things are finally starting up.
h called twice today once I was on the other line with my mom so I didn't answer the other call I did answer but was in the middle of insanity...I have been thinking of changing the kids rooms...dd's room was painted before she was born and son's room never got painted so I switched them (I'll paint dd's room when she's ready for a bed) this entailed taking apart a crib (pain in the butt) taking apart a twin bed, rebuilding each in their new rooms, moving bearues etc... h said if that's what you want to do...asked when I would be leaving I said when you get here (didn't know when he was comming home) well h arived in the process (major mess) said he needed something to eat and then he'd help, the kids were excited to see him so they went down with him, well I just finnished the rooms (can't wait till dd's ready for a bed, a crib and changing table make decorating difficult) kids and h are down in the playroom having some fun. I didn't expect h home so early...he didn't leave til after 10 so a 3 o'clock arival is odd. don't know what to do now. suppose I'll take advantage and get my stuff done so I can get back early to do some reading. there are plenty of leftovers in the fridge and despite the new room changes I don't think the kids will have a problem going to bed.
Thanks for your last post on my thread. It helped get my head straight.
Question: Do you think that what you told you H in the middle of the night had any impact on him getting home early today so you can do what you want? Is there a possible pattern here? Just wondering...
Quote: Question: Do you think that what you told you H in the middle of the night had any impact on him getting home early today so you can do what you want? Is there a possible pattern here?
LL, sorry to hear of your frustrations...I don't have anything to add....maybe it is all going too fast...take the time to slow down and really enjoy some of the good things that have happened since h came back.It is a hard journey when things are really bad and they are gone, but sounds like even tougher when the real piecing begins..Hang in there.. Sue
