My only concern is if he is "cake eating" here...if he really thinks that he can bounce between the two of you because you both are "allowing" him to...
I see it as a positive though in that he is now spending time with you...
I worry about your "fear"...fear can be very crippling...as you well know...and you are easily emotionally attached...I don't think there is anyway around that unless you just lay it out...either he wants to be with you and put 100% into fixing things...or he doesn't...but that is definitely your call...I just know for me, personally, I could not ML and enjoy it knowing that he was going back and forth...
I also have to ask how you KNOW he was at her house on Thursday night???...I do hope you are not snooping again...
My concern is also that he isn't taking the toiletries home...but just buying more for your home...again, this tells me he is really straddling the fence here...maybe she doesn't know he is with you...he could be telling her anything...and again, perhaps she is doing the same thing he is???...of course that would really be sick...and physically dangerous because now you are including a 4th person into the STD pool!!!!...I still am very concerned about the possible damage that can be physically done here...my sister just talked to a friend of ours whose H gave her HPV....and something else (I didn't ask)...she has to be medically monitered all the time and she says she will never have sex again because she doesn't want to be responsible for spreading this to another human...she got an annulment so she is free of her X...but his "legacy" lives on in her...(Ok...I am beating the dead dog again....but only because I care!)
