It seems like he's taking for granted that you will always keep the pieces together no matter what he does. LL, I wish I could come over and just give him a whack in the back of the head to open his eyes. The man just doesn't see what he has and that he has to continue at being attentive to it or he will lose it. I was guilty of taking alot of what my W did for granted and it took her wanting to end the M to give me a good kick in the a$$ to open my eyes. Now I'm not suggesting that you walk away, but by becoming more independant, you might give him the preception you could walk away. If he isn't so certain you will always be there, then it could shake him into realizing he has to change some things too.
Sorry its late, but Happy 30th ... umm no, that's 25th + 5 right?...
