Hmmm...your list of "I do nots" unfortunately ring very true for me in many ways. You know, I have to say that some men are complete knuckleheads when it comes to communicating with women. I used to think I was pretty good because I grew up in a house with three women (my folks had a D): mom, older sis, and younger sis. But, you know what, there was still A LOT I had to learn due to my genetic makeup. My bizarre point, you ask? I think your H needs some guidance. Clearly you two have some significant communication problems. Now, I know we've discussed this before, but I just want to run something by you...
Have you noticed that he has come "home" a little more in the last week or so? Kind of seems like it to me. What are some of those little things that he's been doing that tell you this (I know of one )? Based on the premise that he has come home a little more lately, it is clearly because of the patience you've shown in giving him the space to make this move. Now, what if you were patient a little longer? Do you think you'd likely see more changes?
Or let's say you want to be patient no longer. What would happen if you simply told him how you appreciate the little things he's been doing lately, but you feel that you two have some communication issues that need to be addressed? I believe he has said he does not want to go to C, but what if you suggested going to some M seminar or class that helps teach decent communication? This might be less intimidating to your H than C. What do you think would happen if you suggested this?
)? Based on the premise that he has come home a little more lately, it is clearly because of the patience you've shown in giving him the space to make this move. Now, what if you were patient a little longer? Do you think you'd likely see more changes? 