I posted today on your other piecing thread...read it...it's based on information you wrote up until 5/20. Read it. It's good sdvice up until things spiraled. I think you pursued him too much. I think your fear is feeding his power.
Don't bounce around the threads so much, or we'll lose track of you.
Don't panic....often when we think things go well, and they pull back we panic and we chase. It's common. I did it. I lost some ground. I won't do it again. Now I'm OK.
Stay away from OW. You begging her gives her power and it makes your husband think you are controlling. She doesn't care about you. She only apologized when she thought your husband was returning to you. Once he started up with her she'll ignore you and report all your begging to husband, she'll play you like a cat playing a mouse. She's duplicitous and nasty. Don't trust her. Got it?
You are in a better place than you were when he went back to OW the first time. Don't lose anymore ground by panicking. He is going to need to get her out of his system. He's not done with her yet.
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--theoden
STAY in your house. If you move out, he may get it. He's the one who abandoned the family.
He needs to figure out his life. You killing yourself because you are afraid gets you nowhere.
