It's good to hear from you. Sorry you had a bad morning. I am having a challenging day myself, so hugs between us, okay? ((( Penny)))
As far as his reaction this morning, he probably just looked at your questioning as potentially "prying" into what he had been doing. I know my H told me back in March when he said he didn't want to be married to me anymore that he "wasn't" going to tell me where he was or what he was doing... I have been really careful when he is "gone" for any period of time to purposely NOT ask him what he was doing or how his night/day was, etc. I do this for two reasons (1) because I don't want to make him uncomfortable and possibly create any more distance between us and (2) because in the past when he has told me some things he's done, I've analyzed the heck out of it (in my mind) about whether he was telling me the truth, etc., and it has driven me crazy. So maybe your H was just feeling a little bit "pressured," if that makes sense? Maybe try not to ask him about what he has been doing unless you already know of something he said he was going to do so that you can ask about it afterwards or unless he is the one to bring up something that he's done. That way, HE has been the one to bring it up, so hopefully that means it is a "safe" thing for you to talk about. I know it seems so incredibily silly that we have to worry all the time about what we say to our own spouses, doesn't it? But unfortunately we have to be sensitive to that right now...
Also, Penny, if you do feel insecure, you have every right to feel that way - your H has had an affair for heaven's sake! I think that is just his own guilt and frustration coming out when he says that. However, the key is to do our best to NOT LET THEM KNOW that we are feeling insecure. We have to dig deep within ourselves and find the strength and well-being to display a sense of confidence, as hard as that may be.
Just some thoughts I had that I wanted to share with you, Penny. I hope you're feeling better by the time you're getting back to reading your thread again. I'm thinking about you!
