Okay, I misunderstood. Seems odd that the friend would say that, then.
Well my wife is very much sending mixed signals. She SAYS she wants out right away, but then doesn't move very fast. She doesn't just use her lawyer, that she paid for, but goes to our pastor to split up property. The Pastor saw her crying to the friend after the meeting, and then the friend who is so sweet, and there is NO WAY she would be pro-divorce says that. Jazz is right, it's posturing. Why? That is the $1,000,000,000,000 question. To show she's in charge? To punish me? I don't know. I don't know how she can do this to our son - THAT'S what has me amazed at all this.
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About what?
Being done in 2-3 weeks?
We've been at it for two months, and it's not done, even though we're both agreeable. There's just a lot to do.
If you mean it'll all be over and done with - I don't know. That depends on you and how quickly you can let your M go. I sure couldn't do it that fast.
I don't want to be done period. If my wife does, why doesn't she just end it? She doesn't want to make that decision? She can't pull the trigger? Oh, I think she can. So why hasn't she? Again, who knows. And here I am sitting around waiting for the other shoe to fall while I get myself ready to be a happy divorced man? Doesn't that sound just a little bit insane? Yeah it is.
I'm going home, work is hurting my head now
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
OK guys, it happened this morning. The Spirit finally got through my thick skull (and my hard heart) and let me know everything is going to be OK (one way or the other ;))! This is truly a breakthrough. I was having such a hard time the last week and now I'm at peace, finally! You will not see another negatively-slanted post from me again
Here are some pasages that really helped me with this:
Behold I say unto you, that by small and simple things are great things brought to pass; and small means in many instances doth confound the wise. And the Lord God doth work by means to bring about his great and eternal purposes; and by very small means the Lord doth confound the wise and bringeth about the salvation of many souls.
The family is an eternal organization, God doesn't want this family broken up.
And now, because ye are compelled to be humble blessed are ye; for a man sometimes, if he is compelled to be humble, seeketh repentance; and now surely, whosoever repenteth shall find mercy; and he that findeth mercy and bendureth to the end the same shall be saved.
This is for me, I've been compelled to be humble and I've found that humility. I have repented of my sins and the Lord has forgiven me. THAT is the best feeling of all. THAT will shine through to my W, if she decides to give our family another chance. And it's there for me to help me be a great dad if she doesn't.
And now as I said concerning faith—faith is not to have a perfect knowledge of things; therefore if ye have faith ye hope for things which are not seen, which are true. And now, behold, I say unto you, and I would that ye should remember, that God is merciful unto all who believe on his name; therefore he desireth, in the first place, that ye should believe, yea, even on his word. And now, he imparteth his word by angels unto men, yea, not only men but women also. Now this is not all; little children do have words given unto them many times, which confound the wise and the learned. And now, my beloved brethren, as ye have desired to know of me what ye shall do because ye are afflicted and cast out—now I do not desire that ye should suppose that I mean to judge you only according to that which is true— For I do not mean that ye all of you have been compelled to humble yourselves; for I verily believe that there are some among you who would humble themselves, let them be in whatsoever circumstances they might. Now, as I said concerning faith—that it was not a perfect knowledge—even so it is with my words. Ye cannot know of their surety at first, unto perfection, any more than faith is a perfect knowledge. But behold, if ye will awake and arouse your faculties, even to an experiment upon my words, and exercise a particle of faith, yea, even if ye can no more than desire to believe, let this desire work in you, even until ye believe in a manner that ye can give place for a portion of my words.
Faith and trust in GOD is what gets us through our afflictions (and being cast-out, like me :-)) We awake and arouse our faculties to experiment on the word of God, EXERCISE a particle of faith until you believe enough to give place to the word of GOD!
I like the part about little kids being given words to confound the wise. That's my son. He's amazing.
No amount of earthly skill or tactics can top that. That, in addition to fervent prayer has me feeling peace in my heart for the first time in a long time.
Cast out the fear and doubt you guys, replace it with true love, faith and trust in God. Do that and He will NOT let you down, regardless of what your spouse does.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Sounds like your doing good JR, keep it up. Pass some of that spirit over to me, I could use it today.
Well, I wasn't til today. I was a mess these last few days since "the meeting"
Just stay on your knees talking to your Father in Heavena and He'll get back to you. Just have to remember it's not on your time. If it was, this site wouldn't exist.
And hang out with us and share experiences, it's good for you.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Had a really nice meeting with Jodi, the DB coach. She has her stuff together. If any of you are considering doing the coaching sessions, request her if you can. She really brought in some excellent ideas and fortified my need to be patient and to trust in the Lord. Thanks Jodi!!!
Here is a nice scripture that pertains to all of us, more than likely:
Nevertheless the Lord seeth fit to chasten his people; yea, he trieth their patience and their faith. Nevertheless—whosoever putteth his trust in him the same shall be lifted up at the last day
How many of us are in trials of faith right now? How many are passing the test? I know I wasn't - I was trying to do everything myself DESPITE all the blessings Heavenly Father has poured out upon me the last 2 months.
He is trying our patience and faith, and it WILL be longer than WE want. BUT, it's not up to us.
Have a great day folks. All of this will be for our good. PRAY that it will be for the good of our families too, especially our children.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Anyone else have a Spouse that was dead set on getting divorced for a long time then softened and came back around? I'm looking for success stories that took a while to get the WAW back, and I'm also trying to figure out how long I have to be patient for (that's a little joke guys, COME ON!)
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
