I still lurk too sometimes, especially to check in on any of the old gang!
I'm sorry that it has got to the d stage for you, but you do sound strong and at peace.
Life has been very hard for me recently, lots of family illness, but I'm okay too.
Xh is still in touch. I asked him to stop regular contact last October, so now he just e mails occasionally, very sweet and friendly. Whatever. He uses extreme mountain biking to give him that sense of youthfulness and daring, although he has seemed pretty down in recent months and is not getting the buzz from it he once did. As you say, the grass is not any greener for them until they face up to their own issues.
I too miss the warmth, understanding and companionship of this place. My xh's MLC is not of too much interest to me any more, but it is such a tragic and perplexing thing, and one which profoundly affects so many good people, that I remain interested in it, and am full of compassion for all those affected by it.
All blessings to you, and good luck with the boundary setting for your son.
Love,
Jaybeexxx
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers
