Your thread could also be titled, "It is Hard to Be Patient, or Face My Pain, or Feel Unloved, or Be Disappointed."
CL, you are absolutely right on this except for the fact that I have no choice to face my pain. It is looking at me square in the eye right now. I have always had trouble being patient, I don't want to feel unloved and I hate being disappointed. I think most of those feelings are "normal" under the best of circumstances.
Originally Posted By: Concerned_Listener
You've only been separated for a few months. I think a separation needs at least six months to allow charged emotions to settle. You rushed into a Piecing mindset too quickly. Your M is not yet in Piecing.
Again, I think you are right about this. I don't feel like my H is anywhere near ready to try to piece anything back together in fact, the events of the weekend have pushed us farther apart. My H did tell me before that he wanted to take baby steps...so, I thought we were going to move in that direction but his actions has spoken. This has been so frustrating and hurtful and I know I haven't handled it well. I know I need to change what I am doing or my M will be over for sure. I just seem to be unable to control myself around my H at times. Any suggestions?
