You need to calm down and stop obsessing so much. Give her space. Don't recruit family members to get involved in your situation to bring your wife around. That is pressure. Plus, if she says no, your pride is going to take a hit and you will be upset. Detach...let her do what she wants to do. The only way to get her back is to let her go. You need to GAL and show her that you are independent. Have you read DR or DB? You need to follow the principles immediately. Stop wasting time. Trust me, you will be kicking yourself in the future. Start now!
Which post are you referring to? The one where I said I wanted to get my mom to invite her over? I know I can't do that, I said to in the post.
I do have a life, I am totally independent, I have read DR, and I am leaving her alone - I don't have a choice actually.
Now, I do obsess at times, but that's why I come here and not to her. I can obsess here, get it out and live my life. I appreciate the stern comments though.
Let me bounce something of of you. If I'm "manning up" and making the changes necessary to be attractive to my wife again, and NO ONE sees it because she won't talk to me, at what point do I take things into my own hands and SHOW HER I'm serious about making our marriage not only good, but BETTER than it ever was or even better than she ever imagined?
I'm hitting so many of my goals, doing SO well, and I feel great about me right now. And I have NO WAY of showing her that. I don't need her approval, I would just like to know that I'm doing everything in my power (and God's) to save my marriage, and with NO feedback from her, it's pretty dang hard.
I think I'm going to schedule my last counseling session with Jodi.
THANKS GUYS!!!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
