25 yrs, I only read the first few paragraphs of your post and couldn't finish it. I didn't read more than the first sentence of Beth's. I'm still wondering "why" you have to "make" yourself have loving feelings for this man? From what I read, he has not changed one iota. You are making excuses for him. You don't even like him and neither do your kids. He behaved terribly this past weekend when he should have been doing his best to fit in with the rest of the family. Why, why, why, are you leaving your's and D9's good life behind to live with this man? You sound like a wonderfully funny, intelligent, together woman. I don't understand this at all.
Honestly, if it were me. I'd wait til he got back to Alaska and tell him that you didn't get warm fuzzies while he was here and you're not moving. Period. All the changes he promised did not happen. Sometimes there are worse things than getting a D and living with the type of man your H is may be one of them in my book.
Sorry if this offends anyone but I'm a straight forward kinda girl.
