Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

[WAW in the OC]

Oh yeah,I forgot to mention, she's the one that wants the divorce so I cant even use the last-last resort that gives her the ultimatum since she's already trying to file for divorce. I think she wants to marry this kid when we are through. He's feeding her lines like he wants to spend the rest of his life with her!

I've been hearing from everyone that this is just a fling that will crash and burn soon. It's been going on since at least 2-07 so I'm hopeful it will run its course. She currently still seems madly in love with him and extremely angry at me.

Regarding taking her back, according to the book, many couples have recovered from infidelity and have become stronger since then. I am hoping to join in their ranks. It's only been a week since I've started using the LR and I feel ten times better than before! Even if she finally does leave me I will be able to move on. My choice is to remain a family and reconcile with wife though so I am trying everything possible.

If anyone has any idea what I can do,please let me know. Especially since she doesn't want to end the affair and she wants the divorce quite badly.