Thanks, DNQ, for the insights. I find that it's usually WAH who can be calm and collected. I'm the one who might lose it, although not to harangue and batter him, but to cry... Maybe it's a male/female thing; he always has had the ability to distant himself and I've always found it hard to hold back the tears when I'm tense, anxious or emotional.
Still, I can see that having the goal of being able to keep that emotional reserve when around him is a good one. Truly, most days I'm pretty good (although if you read over my posts, it doesn't sound like it!). It's when we attempt these "bigger" talks that I don't quite make it - the R or other anxiety topics like finances. Answer: no more "bigger" talks for a while, right?
And as for the weight loss, it really is great. I can't get over how many people keep telling me how fabulous I look (I'm down 35 lbs now and 2 sizes). My reply is that if I had known this was how to lose weight, I'd have had H move out years ago . Still, my S17yo has assured me that it doesn't really matter since 40-something moms "can't be sexy." Hmmm, I guess I'm just as glad that he thinks that since he tends to date older girls (2 yrs older or so) already .
Today looks better than yesterday. Onwards ... Anne
. Still, my S17yo has assured me that it doesn't really matter since 40-something moms "can't be sexy." Hmmm, I guess I'm just as glad that he thinks that since he tends to date older girls (2 yrs older or so) already 
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