After reading that all I can say is that he is selfish, selfish, selfish, oh and may I add a master manipulator as well!
OK, so what's in this for you? Why wouldn't you be somewhat negative? You are the one making all of the concessions and have for the last few years.
He says that if your not happy within 2 years he'll leave with you. I don't think from what you wrote that you are at all convinced that this is true.
He should be haunted about how he treated his kids. Obviously he is the most important person in his life. Look around at someone who is a truly loving and involved Father. Nothing could make them choose between their job or their kids, especially when they had the luxury of choice. Sorry but this makes me so angry. As I said before, I lived your life.
Love, Bethie
At the risk of getting everyone upset with me again I stand by what I had originally written. I'm sure that he was lonely and may have meant what he said when he originally called, but on what terms?
You know J, my kids said things to me all along about how their Father was acting but I wouldn't listen. Sometimes it's easier to see when you're once removed. What was the purpose of this hit and run visit if not to be with his family and it doesn't sound as if he really tried to be a part of things while he's been there.
If you're uneasy now, how will you feel when you are out of your little cacoon and feeling so isolated? I still believe that this is more about control then anything else and he sounds like a definite control freak.
I have said on my own thread how peaceful my life has become and happy as well. When you're in it there is so much you can't see. There is no easy fix here. Why would you not see after this weekend that moving to Alaska would'nt be more of the same? I take that back I think you do!
Piecing is the hardest place to be. Most times we've changed but nothing has changed within these spouses. Then your choice becomes do I do all of the work and do I change to fit their demands? Or do you say show me the money first?
Good luck Sweetie with however you decide to take this!
