You and hubby need to discuss the situation with your daughter. You need to present a unified front to her.
It is perfectly normal for a daughter to "rooster" all the attention of Dad while ignoring the "competition".
Your husband needs to include you in their interactions when appropriate and instruct his daughter that shutting you out is not acceptable.
Once that is done, it is a good idea to have some daddy and daughter time. Daughters get a lot of their identity from their dads. I took my daughter out on "dates with daddy" routinely until she was almost 16.
On an off topic aside, my daughter unashamedly held my hand in public places until she was 14. She stopped abruptly when some older woman looked at us and "scowled", evidently thinking that we were in an age inappropriate relationship (I have always looked much younger than my age). My daughter was upset at the interaction, so we agreed that we wouldn't hold hands anymore. That hurt.
Even after that when we were together in public, we often received "the look" of disapproval. It is still amazing to me that society is so unaccustomed to seeing fathers and daughters in healthy relationships, that they assume the worst.
So, zuzu, encourage your husband to develop healthy father/daughter bonds. They will last a lifetime, and they should be special, but not exclude mom.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
