When's it my turn?

[Jen_Jam]

Ok - quick one, thought about this last night. I remember making lists like these and they didn' really work for me and H.

How abou, in MC, you take the list with you, hold it up, then put it to one side and state VERY calmly that as YOU feel YOUR needs are not being met you have no inclination to work on H's list at this present time.

Then see what H and the C come up with - maybe a differernt approach?

I also agree very much with Dana in that looking for the positives can help. At times like this all we can see are the negatives, maybe it's time to go back and revisit the times we applauded he baby steps?

Rob's idea of a bomb ... well, I don't think threatening to be a WAW shold be done lightly, but I sat down with my H and talked of his LD, saying it was frustrating me and that if nothing ot done I would be at risk of having an affair, and I didn't want to do that. I suppose in a way it was a mini bomb.

So ... some good advice here, but I just think maybe Michelle wold say that these lists aren't working, so maybe it's a cheeseless tunnel? Maybe H needs to see you pull back a bit into your GAL mode. So he's "too busy" with work etc? Well, that's fine, you'll go hang out with your pals until he is ready. You certainly won't sit about moping and waiting for him to pull his thumb out of his backside and GET ON WITH IT!!!!

I fele your frustration, I really do. I still wish Michelle would write a book on Piecing, but in the meantime I am SO GLAD you're still here, it's good to have company in the Hall of Mirrors which Piecing is!!

(((((SD)))))