I'll read more from the start later as time permits, but I caught your comment about how hard it is to go dark when you see him every day because of the kids. I am in exactly the same boat as you. I see my WAW every day, sometimes several times. As hard as it is for me (and Jazz can back me up on this) I do treat her like a friendly neighbor, other than we are talking about the kids. I do this even when her temper flares and she insults me, degrades me, and all that. At those times, as I have recently learned how to do, I just tell her I don't care for her to talk to me like that and leave.
This stuff if tough, and I'm not even close to getting the hang of it. Believe me on that one. I do know that my going dark in her presence (sounds strange, but....) has helped me calm down and be more settled. She is, I think, beginning to see that she cannot drag me into the same old arguements we once had (very recently I might add). Those buttons just don't seem to work for her anymore!
Good luck. DNQ
Me: 39 WAW: 40 S10, D7, S6 Bomb #1 - 12-24-06: Move out (ILYBNILWY - admitted '05 PA) Move back: 3-2-07 (W: I still want to be married to you) Bomb # 2 - 4-11-07: (W: Can't do this - never loved you) Move out again: 4-29-07 Dark: 6-8-07
