I grasped this concept as what my H is going through. I have also left other options open in my mind. DBing, I think, has to do with other options as well as the MLC.
Other options this could be in my mind are:
1. communication issues in the marriage-Maybe they are not in an MLC but got frustrated with trying (all be it maybe the wrong ways). They feel that they have tried and tried and never got anywhere. But they were not really communicating their problems effectively. Therefore, they leave because they feel they are out of options.
The only way to get it worked out is by taking positive steps.
mimi
Mimi - I've been giving #1 a lot of contemplation in my situation. Describes us perfectly, but then again so does MLC for her. THAT is what makes it so confusing.
By the way braveheart, I have to commend you on what you did on behalf of the children. You don't need my compliments, you know you did what a MAN would have done. Unfortunately, us men sometimes don't get enough credit for what we are ready, willing and able to go through for our children. I will stand tall through whatever hell I have to go through to save my family and keep us together. I pity the person who gets in the way of that. My children need their mother happy and healthy, and they need their parents together, in the same house full of love. We all have different situations that we deal with, some harder than others, and I hope I end up as one of the success stories. I hope all of us find what we are looking for.
Me: 39 WAW: 40 S10, D7, S6 Bomb #1 - 12-24-06: Move out (ILYBNILWY - admitted '05 PA) Move back: 3-2-07 (W: I still want to be married to you) Bomb # 2 - 4-11-07: (W: Can't do this - never loved you) Move out again: 4-29-07 Dark: 6-8-07
