As hard as the situation is, you are probably better prepared for it than H - after all, there have been so many cases here to learn from. It must nevertheless be hard to keep going when it probably feels like you have been fighting the good fight forever. Like CL pointed out, with your H it may be necessary to go all the way before he can see that his problems lie elsewhere. In the meantime, you of course need to shine through.
Are you pinning a smile on your face - acting like this is a form of liberation? Remember, always make them wonder?
