As hard as the situation is, you are probably better prepared for it than H - after all, there have been so many cases here to learn from. It must nevertheless be hard to keep going when it probably feels like you have been fighting the good fight forever. Like CL pointed out, with your H it may be necessary to go all the way before he can see that his problems lie elsewhere. In the meantime, you of course need to shine through.
Are you pinning a smile on your face - acting like this is a form of liberation? Remember, always make them wonder?
I’d like your opinion. I have detached. I have noticed some change but my W does not communicate any feelings. It’s almost like reverse detaching. She still does things with my son and I. she has plans for the family in the coming months. But it is like we are in limbo land with our R. The confusing thing is she is trying to do some nice things for me. Little things but things. So in order to do these things it does mean she is thinking about me but she won’t communicate beyond day to day stuff. I’m afraid to pressure or ask her where are we, and where are we going to go in our marriage. What little ground I have gained I don’t want to lose. On the other hand I have only been doing this for 2 months. (Seams like 2 years). I can’t and don’t want to go 18 months. (In reality to save my son from hurt I would go a life time but that can’t be healthy for me)
Any inputs?
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Hi Mat, Just checking in with a quick note. To tell you I'm still thinking of you. My H and I have been married 25 yrs and I can for the life of me figure out what he is thinking. Your H is blaming the marriage for his own problems but it is easier to do that then face them. My H is the same way. He view is he is doing nothing wrong since we have had problems then it is OK for him to have OW. They do not think straight.
Hang in there you are doing great..Keep being strong. Have to run but I am thinking of you.
