Had a conversation with my wife tonight. She thanked me for an email that I had recently sent and the fact that I was taking some responsibility in all of this. Obviously not the affair but for getting our marriage to a state which allowed this to occur.
She then started to talk about the girls and how they are going to be cared for with us separated. She told me that she plans on seeing her lawyer this week to ask some questions and possible file for divorce or legal separation. Either way that is her call, I am not going to file for divorce. She did ask me about my ring. I told her that I would probably take it off when I feel that we have exhausted every avenue and it just was not meant to be or we got divorced.
I did get mad at her when she told me that I could not bring the girls to Disney because she was planning on doing so in September. I told her F you... Not the smartest move on my part.
So the summary of our conversation is this. We both want the same thing in regards to our kids. We both want us to be apart of their lives as much as possible. We are just reversed in how we want it. As for our relationship she feels that she has done enough to try and make it work over the years, and I do not feel that we have done enough to see if we can work this out.
She for the first time heard me say that our old marriage is dead and that if it was to work out between us that it would different...much different. She is the one who initiated the conversation, but, it was to talk about the kids and what I feel is the next appropriate step in all of this. She told me that the only good move that I have made lately, besides the email, is to start sleeping on the couch. I agreed with her that I have messed up a lot recently and hopefully was able to open her mind up to my side of things. I told her that I am done accusing her, done arguing, etc..... I did ask her about her counselor and mentioned that I do not know what is said between them but I felt that she was negligent and irresponsible for not trying to get us into MC together. She said that she(her counselor) had tryed and now with everything that has come out of her counseling that she(my wife) is to the point were she does not see the point of it.
She also mentioned that she has found a home near by and that she wants to start things moving and get out of this limbo state.
So what do you all think? am I doomed or is this an OK interaction?
