My ex and I are piecing. It's been interesting to say the least.
I learned a lot about myself in this process. I was the one who left. I moved back in over a year ago. I went through a big defrost to get where I am now and my husband put up with a lot for me to get where I am now. I learned a lot in counseling. One major thing for me to understand is what co-dependant means - the counselor explained it as waiting for someone to do something that you believe will make you feel better - as in their actions are a contingency for you to feel one way or another. I read a lot of situations where I think people that are divorce busting are co-dependant in one way or another. I totally understand that. It makes me sad, though. If you are waiting for your husband to do something or for him to come home before you can feel better, you're setting yourself up for a great deal of pain/disappointment. I'm sorry but I believe that to be true. I would recommend that you decide what it is that you can do to make you happy and follow that course. It sounds to me like you are doing that to some extent with looking at condos, etc...
If sometime your husband decides to come home and starts his "big thaw," hit me up. I can maybe help you out with what I went through.
