Wish I had answers to give. I think what you SIL said is very good. Don't beg or ask, just state that you still love her and do not want a divorce. I think brief and matter of fact would work best.

I'm sorry you are having this difficult time. I am sending prayers and encouragement your way.

bambam

Me-BS 38
X-WS 36
Separated 11/15/2006
Filed for D 8/1/2007
Divorce Final 12/21/2007
S13, S13 (twins), D9
Married 13 Yrs
Together 20 Yrs