Sol, Oldtimer is making some good suggestions. By not letting her know, for example, that you are going out or how long you expect to be gone or where to reach you it could be seen as passive aggressive hostility. In her mind, your actions could be interpreted as you trying to inflict punishment on her, not as detachment. Detachment cannot be done while angry, it just can't! When you reported the info about the pictures and the furniture it told me that you are NOT detached. You are still looking for things to fuel the resentment, and that is pretty darn human to do! So, if you really want to detach (and I have no friggin idea of how to do it myself) follow Oldtimers suggestions for now and hopefully others can give you some more guidance. So hang in there, tatoo man!
