You are grieving not only the loss of your brother but you M too. this is a lot to deal with.
I can only tell you from experiences of the last 4 mon that my H who is now 50 responds to me focusing life on him. we are separated and see ea other less and less. But I make sure I ask him how his day was and listen and act interested... though at times I want to strangle him through the phone for he never asks me.
If you are focusing on you then she may be at the point of feeling that you do not care at all about her.
I asked my H to talk 2 wks ago and he said ok then called and talked instead of showing up but the convo was about him. Then he showed up and again the convo was about him. I finally got to the point that I needed to tell him things so I sent an email. Well... he calls... tells me you don't sound well. No crap sherlock is what I wanted to say but I said. No I am injured not sick and the meds are making me feel really weird. Nothing I got nothing from him at all... he was cold as ice.
He has to hurry up and get off the phone if I start to talk about the kids or something he does not want to deal with. This is really obvious some days.
they can't deal with OUR problems is what I think might be happening. she needs you to be strong and there but just doesn't have the compassion in her to deal with your feelings right now????
You need to deal with those feelings and get yourself together and it is not going to be easy or happen overnight. Grief takes a huge tole on our minds and bodies. Stress runs right along with it.
Maybe a simple email....? Not sure what you need to say but it has to be light and not depressing and not about you I hope that you find peace soon.
m24 yrs h 50 me 47 s 21 s 17 left 5-30-06, and 12-4-06 still gone.............
