W is nuts, and I need to detach......

[~Sol]

OT, I am at the point of breaking the enmeshed emotions and conditioning I have created in myself and in this M. I was afraid to let go, mainly BECAUSE I was enmeshed....and saw it difficult to move on.

I am the one that is willing to go see a C and look at myself hard in the mirror, and also in my M. My W is not.....otherwise she would go. She says that MC "doesn't work" - but she has never tried it, so how could she come to that assessment? She is afraid to go, I know that much. But I also want her to know that I am not going to be her "provider" if she doesn't see me as being her "husband"....she doesn't see me as that. I think that my W is more enmeshed than I am.

But she is not willing to even meet me half-way in getting our M "on track". My M is right where it was 1, 5 or 8 years ago. It was highly conflicted, even during dating. My W is more afraid to be on her own than I am. It shouldn't be this way - I think both of us don't really know what a good M is supposed to be, but I know what a bad M is....